How to Get Great Recommendation Letters for College — Without the Awkwardness
Asking someone to write a letter
about how awesome you are can feel… awkward. But recommendation letters are a
big deal in college admissions. They give colleges a glimpse of who you are
beyond grades and test scores.
Here’s how to make the process
smoother, more effective, and a lot less stressful:
1. Pick People Who Really
Know You
This isn’t a popularity contest.
Choose a teacher, counselor, or mentor who knows your journey — someone who’s
seen how hard you’ve worked, how you show up for others, or how you’ve grown
over time. They’ll be able to write more honestly and powerfully than someone
who barely knows your name.
Think: “Who could tell a story
about me, not just list my achievements?”
2. Ask Early (Really Early)
Teachers receive many requests,
especially during application season. Give them plenty of time (a month is
ideal), and don’t drop a rushed email. If possible, ask in person or send a
thoughtful message that shows appreciation.
A simple “Would you feel
comfortable writing a recommendation for me?” goes a long way.
3. Make It Easy for Them
Help them help you. Share a quick
list of your activities, goals, and the colleges you’re applying to. Let them
know what you’re hoping they can highlight, like your leadership in a club or
your improvement in class. Just don’t write the letter for them (colleges can
tell).
4. Stories > Superlatives
The best letters tell stories —
not just say, “She’s amazing!” A good recommender will describe real moments
that show your effort, growth, or curiosity. Please give them a gentle nudge by
reminding them of times that stood out to you.
5. Say Thank You — Every Time
After they submit, send a real
thank-you note. Not just a “Thanks!” text. A few kind sentences can leave a
lasting impression. These are busy people who went the extra mile for you and
might do it again someday if you stay in touch.
Great recommendation letters
don’t happen by accident. They occur when you take the lead,
thoughtfully, respectfully, and with a bit of planning. It’s just another way
you’re telling your story, with someone else backing you up.
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